what you meant was: "i and society as a whole hold women up to ridiculous respectability standards directly relating to the "purity" of said women while hypersexualizing them at the same time and if you are a woman and don't fit my awkward monolith of criteria then i refuse to acknowledge your humanity"
what i heard was: "hi i'm a misogynist piece of shit, please punch me in my face"
male privilege is “i have a boyfriend” being the only response that might actually stop a guy from coming onto you, because he respects another man more than he respects ur actual opinion/lack of interest.
^^^^^^^
(Source: all-about-male-privilege)
While asking me about my daughter’s hair, please do not start touching it. Just because I am a vanilla parent this does not mean that you have an “in” to touch chocolate hair for the first time. I have had too many people tell me, “Oooh, I’ve always wondered what their hair felt like,” while pawing my daughter. She’s not an animal, she’s a human being… She is small, but she does have personal space and a sense of self-worth. When you invade that space without her permission you are telling her that she has no rights to her body; that her desire to be left untouched is not as important as your curiosity. Even if your hands are clean, they still leave a an invisible mark. If you are sweet and kind enough to ask my daughter ahead of time if you can touch her hair, please do not be offended if she says, “No.” She is not being rude. She has no obligation to give the answer that you want. Her body is her own and if she does not want to share it with you at that moment, then please respect her rights. Don’t tell me that she’s being “disobedient” or “rude” or huff and walk away. In doing so, you are indirectly communicating that she owes you a piece of herself for no other reason than because you asked. She does not… Do not blame the victim for your indiscretion or lack of self control.
Do not tell me to respect my body by covering it.
Do not tell me to respect my body by crossing my legs, keeping my knees together, my skirts long and my treatment of my body within your framework.
I respect my body by doing what I please with it.
I respect my body by loving it and all of the things it allows me to do.
I respect my body by being kind to the parts I sometimes don’t enjoy.
I respect my body by understanding that it is my body and is no more or less beautiful than any other.
I respect my body by not being afraid of it.
I respect my body by challenging it with running and dancing.
I respect my body by dressing it in the clothes I see fit and refusing to acknowledge that by societal standards stripes and hounds-tooth clash.
I respect my body by wearing short skirts when I so desire.
I respect my body by wearing sweat pants when I so desire.
I respect my body by recognizing and asserting that it is mine, not society’s, not the patriarchy’s, not catcallers’, not harassers’, not slut-shamers’, exactly no one’s but mine.
And if you can’t see the beauty in someone taking ownership of what has been and will be theirs all of their life (even though the world will tell them otherwise), perhaps you need to gain a little respect.
I already respect my body.
It’s time you start respecting it too.
“One of the world’s wealthiest women, J.K Rowling, has given so much money to charity she can no longer claim billionaire status.
The Harry Potter author has fallen down the Forbes rich list because of her charitable giving, the business magazine said.”
Just one more reason why JK Rowling will forever be one of my heroes.
HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD
I MEAN SERIOUSLY
some days I just want to give up fighting for anything
people will not accept that they have any shred of privilege
people continue wanting to be respected despite the fact that they don’t listen when things are explained to give them perspective and they demand to know why no one treats them ‘nicely’ when they have made it obvious they don’t treat anyone different from them with respect enough to shut up and listen when they need to correct their behavior
accommodating straight white male transphobic assholes is getting to be extremely tiring
I’ll respect the other side when the other side makes an effort to respect and understand me
